Stop Negative Thinking – When your mind is the enemy

You cant live a positive life thinking negative thoughts. Dwell on the positive.

My mind has been such an enemy to me lately. All week it seems I have been struggling with negative and anxious thoughts, particularly first thing in the morning, which is when I feel most vulnerable.

The mind is very very clever and knows what thoughts to feed you to make you upset. Once you are taken over by the thoughts, it can be hard to come out of it. It took me almost a week to feel better and get my inner calm back today. Continue reading

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Anxiety Help Between Friends – a balm that heals

good friends are like stars you cant always see them but theyre always there

Being able to relate to others who “get it” is one of the things that helps me deal so much. I don’t have anyone in my day to day life that understands or experiences what I go through, which is why I write this blog.

Let’s face it, when anxiety rears its ugly head, or when you have to deal with stupid anxiety for any length of time, it affects your daily life, and so helps to have a friend to turn to. Here is a recent email discussion between Kathleen and me: Continue reading

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Feeling better after last weekend

theres always a rainbow after the rain

After my acute episode of social anxiety at the retirement party last Saturday, I was more than just a little freaked out at the prospect of returning to work on Monday. I wondered if anyone noticed me acting frozen in fear and hardly being able to talk or him being weird and randomly disappearing. I guess I was just afraid of the aftermath, since my experience was so intensely crappy! Continue reading

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Social Anxiety SUCKS! – my rant :(

social anxiety sucksOk then, well my last post about anxiety setbacks was obviously written just for little ol me. Maybe it was a foreshadowing of things to come because last night was absolutely fucking horrendous and bizarre beyond belief. I gotta spill here because I don’t know what else to do.

If you detest obscenities and pity parties, please don’t read this, because I’m not holding back. Continue reading

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Why You MUST Be Kind to Yourself After an Anxiety Setback

anxiety setback

A reminder to you that when you are having a setback with anxiety and things seem to feel all wrong, how important it is to be kind and gentle to yourself.

Yesterday at work I was off my A game. For whatever reason, I slipped back into feeling a lot of unease and what I would call borderline generalized anxiety for most of my shift.

It didn’t actually get to the point of being unbearable, and I didn’t have an all-out panic attack, but I definitely didn’t feel as well as I usually do.

It was very unpleasant. But on another level, I was ok with it. Continue reading

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Quick Anxiety Self Help Tip – To use when things are good

be the person you needed

This morning I was in the grocery store and I was absolutely present and calm. It was so nice 🙂 Grocery shopping has been a challenge for me as an adult with anxious tendencies as there are so many triggers for my social anxiety and ways to get trapped– whether it be in line, or in a crowded aisle or trapped in small talk.

Today I have quick Anxiety Help Tip about How to Overcome Fear of a situation that has triggered anxiety for you in the past. This works especially if the situation is unavoidable, and you occasionally or frequently experience fear or anxiety when you think about it or do it.

This could include things such as sitting in class, driving, shopping, being at work, elevators, bridges, waiting in lines and so on. For me today it is grocery shopping… Continue reading

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Nonresistance and Panic Attacks – watching fear melt away


“Nonresistance is the key to the greatest power in the universe.” – Eckhart Tolle

I am learning that this is even true with very strong negative emotions like anxiety. Last weekend I went to a Broadway show with 2 of my girlfriends. This was a pretty big deal for me. Sitting in classrooms, theaters, church, lecture halls, etc., has been a huge panic attack trigger for me ever since high school.

It’s been years since I’ve been to a play with anyone besides my family, hence no “safe person” in the event of a panic attack. And last spring when I went to a show with Bob, we were in the front row and I had so many panic attacks we had to change seats… Continue reading

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do nothing

You are already living in hell–what you are imagining–
The worst that can possibly happen is already happening–your thinking.

Anxiety is a thinking problem. Yesterday I went into a store, TJ Maxx, because I wanted to look for boots. I was very crowded in there. I don’t like crowds. Then out of the blue, I thought, what if I see Jen from work, or anyone from work, how will I make small talk? The next thing I know, I am scanning the store to see if anyone I know is there. I feel slightly queasy. All at once, I regret coming in the store. This sucks! I walked out…

And it’s over.

As soon as I leave the store, the feelings dissipate. The story is over.
It can never get any worse than your thinking.
No one can ever give you a greater hell than you. Continue reading

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