This past weekend we all went upstate for an overnight trip to visit my parents and for Easter Sunday dinner. My sister and her partner also live near my parents so we got to see them too.
And it went fine. It was really nice. And I am so grateful I went. But as usual my mind was all over the place in the days leading up to the trip. My mind tried to make the trip into a big deal – something that would be very hard to bear.
This was the first time our whole family has made the trip since before the mess of last summer.
The mind stuff went something like this: This trip is going to suck big time. What if Bob will behave rudely and who knows what my family even thinks of him now. I know they tolerate him, but I also know how pissed off they were at him last summer for what went down. And the car ride up- I hate how he drives. He speeds and tailgates. What if I can’t hold it together in front of the girls and start screaming at him and ruin the whole trip?
For me, thinking about something significant before it actually happens in real life is ALWAYS worse than doing it. Continue reading
Have you ever just observed a little baby or small child? How – when their needs are met- how peacefully and effortlessly they are just being in the world?
You and I were once like that too. Before we formed our identities and then became immersed and overcome with the world and our wants, needs and desires. And before anxiety reared its ugly head.
On the journey of finding inner peace and healing, as you learn to quiet the mind little by little and become peaceful with the present moment, you notice little things along the way.
Recently I was in a Body Pump class at my gym. The instructor is a nice woman, I’ve taken classes with her for years. And I know she only meant it in a helpful way when the shoulder work was getting hard and she shouted out to all of us: “Don’t be easy on yourself!”
That remark really resonated with me – but not in a good way… Continue reading
Searching for panic attacks info can sometimes be anything but easy. You may Google your symptoms, read a good article, or be lead to an anxiety forum where you hear conflicting advice. And sometimes the stuff we read on the internet can be downright scary. As if we’re already not scared enough!
One of the goals of writing PanicFreeMe.com is to help demystify some of the confusing information floating around out there. Someone asked me recently how I know so much about panic attacks and anxiety. The answer is just this- I’ve lived it.
In our last post we looked at an outline of 10 Rules for Coping with Panic Attacks. We used positive coping statements throughout. The positive self talk statements were simple, concise and to the point. Today we will delve a little deeper into some basic, but important panic attacks info. Continue reading
I’ve been enjoying the tremendous benefits of mindfulness since I first started meditating in summer 2014. We talk about it here and there on the blog and I wanted to bring it up again today, because I really think it helps so much with life!
First of all, if you are reading this and you suffer from anxiety, you should give meditation a try. It is proven by solid scientific research to alleviate anxiety and depression- in addition to tons of other benefits. Honestly the only benefit I ever cared about was alleviating my anxiety 🙂
I have decades of fearful reactions and negative thought patterns to undo, so I never run out of things to work on! Learning to dis-identify from all these old thoughts is what I am doing in my life every day! And sitting in meditation for a few minutes slows you down and helps you get in touch with your real self, so that you can start to do this:) Continue reading
Question: Jill, I was curious if you don’t mind my asking. Do you take any medications? I do not but sometimes I wonder if it would help. I did take Paxil 17 years ago & I would say that is when I gained a lot of ground. Medication or not….that is the question. lol… I’d love your thoughts.
Answer: Yes I do. But only on an as needed basis. A 30 day supply of of Klonopin lasts me 6 months or more. Taking medication for anxiety is highly personal- meaning, there is no “one size fits all” solution. I know that a lot of doctors prescribe antidepressants (SSRI’s) for long term chronic anxiety. I have taken Prozac and then Celexa in the past. I am not currently taking an antidepressant.
Despite going through a lot of family and personal drama last summer, I am in a surprisingly good space, anxiety- wise. I attribute that to my consistency in sitting down to meditate for 6 minutes every morning, going to the gym a few times a week for exercise, and showing up to work every day (where I interact with my friends, coworkers and patients). I also make sure to get out and socialize at least once every month or two. Continue reading