Undoing The Thought: Anxiety Ruins My Life

question your thoughts and fear leavesI woke up agitated and anxious this morning. This is not uncommon for me at this time in my life. At the ripe hour of 5:30 am I couldn’t take it anymore so I went downstairs to the computer. I went to do a trusted Judge Your Neighbor Worksheet to undo the thoughts that were making me sick.

I will hold this belief up against the 4 questions of The Work of Byron Katie.

Let me show you how, by using 4 Simple Questions and then finding Turnarounds, I was able to set myself free of a belief that was causing me much pain and mental anguish.

My hope is that, by seeing this simple process here, you will be inspired to use The Work on your own limiting beliefs – about anxiety, stress, worry, or anything that is causing you to suffer.

This is a simple way to find peace and freedom! And freedom from suffering is our birthright! 🙂

1. Who angers, irritates, saddens, or frustrates you and why?
I am angry at anxiety because it ruins my life

2. What do you need them to do in order for you to be ok?
I need anxiety to go away forever.

3. What is it that they should or shouldn’t do, be, think or feel?
I shouldn’t wake up with anxiety.

4. What do you think of them? Make a list.
Anxiety is cruel. It takes the joy out of my life. It makes everything hard.

5. What is it that you don’t want to experience with that person again?
I don’t ever want to wake up with anxiety again.

Anxiety ruins my life.
Is it True? No

How do you react when you believe the thought?
Hopeless. Sick in gut. Negative thoughts bombard me, images of past and future. About me, my life, work, mom and dad, the girls, Bob, my sister, Buddy, the neighbors, how mornings are so hard. My pain body is 100% activated, I feel overwhelmed. Images of past taking Sam as a baby in to Dr. Levine, going there when I was pregnant, feeling sad about that. Feel the anxiety in my lower abdomen and wonder how it will go away, notice it keeps coming back.

Who would you be without the thought?
Still. Taking a breath. In this moment, peace. Hear the Tap tap tap of my fingers on the keyboard. It’s now 6am on a Sunday morning. Just here in peace with no story. Looking at my hands.

Turnarounds (Find examples for each turn around that is or could be as true or truer.)

Anxiety builds my life. (Doesn’t ruin my life)
Example: I’ve learned to feel the feeling and watch it. To witness it. As Eckhart Tolle teaches, who put that feeling there? To watch it without making it a story.

Example: I’ve learned to question the thoughts that cause the feeling. To undo the thoughts like now doing a Judge Your Neighbor Worksheet. And the anxiety natually falls away. With such ease…

Example: I’ve learned to cross over into the other brain hemisphere (from being emotional to being logical) when it takes hold. Via looking left and right, heart breathing, exercise, tapping, expanded awareness and eyes in the back of my head, hypnosis, or doing the Time Line exercise.

Example: I’ve taken the anxiety and used it to move forward. I learned to function with it. On every level in my life.

Example: I can take medication any time.There is nothing stopping me. Ever.

Turnaround: My thinking ruins my life.

Yes, thoughts come about my life, my work, my family, they come with images of past and future and I attach to them and I can’t relax. I can’t handle it. My world becomes hell and my life is ruined in that moment.

I need anxiety to go away forever.

Is it true? Yes.

Can you absolutely know it’s true that you need anxiety to go away forever?

Well, I guess if I had to know in the highest sense, if i had to really know for sure that it would be for my highest good and for the highest good of humanity, I would have to say no.


I’m thinking of that Rupert Spira video I saw about why are we so afraid of this little feeling?

How do you react when you believe the thought?
When I believe this thought, I am in an endless abyss. I can never make anxiety go away forever so I am in complete and utter hell, and the only temporary escape is to take pills all the time and live in a very careful way.

Who would you be without the thought?

Just sitting here in peace. Feeling my abdomen relaxed so much already. Feel so much peace from just investigating these untrue thoughts. So grateful!

I need my thinking to go away forever.

This is more true.So so so true! I need my thinking and attachment to the stories to go away forever. This is the way out of anxiety forever.

I shouldn’t wake up with anxiety.

Is it true?

How do you react when you believe the thought?

I feel exhausted and yet I can’t rest. I cant relax. I just lay there miserable. I feel hopeless and I slept like shit on top of it.

Who would you be without the thought?
I would have some saneness, some clarity of mind, some space around the anxiousness. In that space, I could feel the feeling, and have the wherewithal to do tapping (or something else out of my toolbox to help calm me, and then a Jude Your Neighbor Worksheet.

I should wake up with anxiety

Proof or examples:

Because I do. It’s what is for now.

It is morning, it’s a weekend, I have a lunch planned with friends today, I am sensitive. For now, it’s the way of it. Until it’s not.

I had anxious thoughts and I attached to them. I had images in my head and I attached to them. That is why I should wake up with anxiety.

I shouldn’t wake up with thinking….And think that I shouldn’t have anxiety.

Anxiety is cruel.

My thinking is cruel. Anxiety is just a feeling. It is benign. My thinking is cruel and merciless when it attaches to the story of anxiety is cruel and it shouldn’t be happening and it’s ruining my life.

Anxiety takes the joy out of my life.

My thinking takes the joy out of my life.

Anxiety makes everything hard.

My thinking makes everything hard.

I don’t ever want to wake up with anxiety again.

I’m willing to wake up with anxiety again.

Why? Because it could happen. It could happen tomorrow. Then I can do a Judge Your Neighbor worksheet again and set myself free again.

Thank you Lord. 🙂

I hope you can see from my example how it’s not anxiety that causes the suffering. It’s THE STORY we weave around the situation and believe that causes the suffering.

And once we loosen our grip on that story, the story itself doesn’t feel so real, so powerful anymore. And naturally then, the anxiety and all the drama around it starts to naturally fade away.

“A thought is harmless unless we believe it. It’s not our thoughts, but our attachment to our thoughts, that causes suffering. Attaching to a thought means believing that it’s true, without inquiring. A belief is a thought that we’ve been attaching to, often for years.” – Byron Katie

Here are some other posts about using The Work that you will want to read:

How the Mind Twists Reality into Hell- And The Way Back to Peace

How to Notice When Your Thinking is Distorted

Doing Byron Katie’s The Work for Panic Attacks

I wish you peace,

Jill G.

Resources for you:

To learn more about The Work, see this site (it is free): http://thework.com.

Highly recommended reading (this book is on my nightstand) : Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life


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