As we make our way on our journey out of the hell that is living with frequent panic attacks and anxiety, we may find that our anxiety triggers change over time. What used to make you panic just doesn’t anymore. Of course that is such a huge relief!
But now that you’re getting better, you may find that new things pop up and they leave you feeling anxious again. Or you have a minor setback..Once more, anxiety seems to be rearing its ugly head, and it leaves you feeling unsettled.
So what can you do? A lot actually 🙂
Here is a reader question to help illustrate:
today was one of those days when I went back through your posts to get some relief. I wanted to run something past you though. Today I avoided a panic attack by the skin of my teeth. I got overheated and for whatever reason, that can trigger me. But I immediately stopped it and was fine. The thing I am having trouble with is the way I feel afterward.
I expected to feel like crap and anxious the rest of the day, but I didn’t. HOWEVER, the fact that I didn’t feel bad was strange to me, and has made me anxious That probably sounds ridiculous. We so look forward to the time when we don’t have anxiety but once you get used to it, not having it is just as unsettling. I was just wondering if this has ever happened to you? Do you ever make yourself anxious because you don’t react the way your normal panicky mind would?
No hon it doesn’t sound ridiculous. And yes, I have felt anxious when my mind reacts in a new way. But that is just another form of anxiety. Or maybe to put it another way, your body registered that you “felt strange,” then it released those stress hormones, including cortisol and adrenalin- and they do what they always do in your body- make you feel bad. As a result, you felt anxious.
So Now, Let’s Discuss Solutions for this New Trigger/Setback, and How to Move Forward 🙂
1. Regroup and Get the Facts Straight
When you’re anxious and unsettled and don’t know why, that can leave you feeling vulnerable to the unknown, and that doesn’t feel good.
Kelly went back and read old posts here that helped her. Kelly congratulations for taking action! By reading through blog posts and articles to get relief, you are studying and retraining your brain again. You are figuring out what helps you, instead of just letting anxiety happen to you. When you just let anxiety fester without doing anything about it, that leads to unease that can grow.
You at home can do the same. Get out your best anxiety resource book or go back to that web site that helped you once upon a time, or search though articles here on this site, and re-read some good, helpful information. Knowledge is power.
Know this in your recovery: Setbacks are temporary.
2. Remember that you’re NOT alone.
Please remember that every person alive feels anxiety from time to time. And most people have felt some degree of abnormal anxiety. More and more, I hear people talking openly about panic attacks, anxiety attacks, and what have you. The stigma of shame seems to be lifting, which is wonderful. Because there is no shame in feeling anxiety. It is all part and parcel of being human.
You are never, ever alone in your suffering.
3. Know that you are making progress and getting better.
Because you are! You are evolving into a better, healthier version of you. One where you may notice anxiety here and there, but you simply won’t let it ruin your day anymore, like it once did. You are a survivor. Affirm now that you will brush yourself off and get right back in there and continue living your life!
4. Practice good habits for yourself every day.
A big part of overcoming anxiety once and for all is to form healthy, good habits that you do consistently. Every day. This cannot be stressed enough, for this is the foundation upon which you will cure yourself of panic and anxiety once and for all.
These are the Basics to Anxiety Recovery:
Find a Good Program and Work It. I recommend and use the 60 Second Panic Solution. This stops the panic attacks.
Learn to Relax/Meditate. My daily practice is to be still and listen to audio CDs in the car on my way to work. These are 2 of my favorites: The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle (a bit advanced), and The 4 Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz (great for beginners). I love these books!. They have added a depth to my life that I always knew existed, but didn’t know how to access and benefit from. I hope you will look into these gems for yourself, they are simply wonderful!
Why is it so important to meditate? As you learn to sit and be still with yourself, you learn to live more fully in the Present. You don’t dwell in the past or future, where all anxiety and depression live. Sitting quietly in meditation quiets your brain. You learn to sharpen your attention skills and be more mindful of the present moment, where everything is always fine and manageable. Even if you meditate for just a few minutes a day, it helps you, and the benefits are cumulative.
Be Happy and Positive. Learn to cultivate an attitude of gratitude. Smile and laugh as much as you can. Play a little. Enjoy your life. Learn to enjoy the day to day things. Life is meant to be lived, not endured, after all.
Being Happy and Positive generates powerful energy and puts positivity out into the world. You can heal yourself and be a great agent for change in this world with this power.
As a side note here, I have to tell you with great pride that I am finally off all anxiety and depression medications. Yes indeed, and I’ve been on them since 1988. If that isn’t a testimony to putting good, healthy habits into daily practice, I don’t know what is. 🙂
Ok Kelly and Dear Readers, now you know what you have to do, right? Get right back out there and keep on keeping on, keep on living, keep on breathing, affirm to yourself every day that you are getting better and better. Because you are! 🙂
I wish you peace,
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