Today we are going to revisit the topic of anxiety setbacks. We all have them, and boy can they set us off big time. To put it mildly, they suck! Today’s post is inspired by a reader comment on a previous post.
I am breaking down what the reader Tonya said and looking at it piece by piece. Follow along, we are all in this together. All recovery from anxiety is basically the same, so see if you can relate to her feelings….
Tonya: I am so discouraged with this shit! How can I pretend it doesn’t matter and I don’t care when I do! I am sick of feeling like shit and not being able to go anywhere without this fucking anxiety!
I hear you girl. Well of course it matters and of course you care. Acting as if has nothing to do with pretending it doesn’t matter.
Let me start by saying it sounds like you are at the point where you are overwhelmed.
You tell me you have been having lots of anxiety lately, some small panic attacks, and then of course the one at the Broadway show. Plus you recently took off from work because you had surgery.
That would probably put anyone over the edge. It is discouraging to feel anxiety and have to go through it and then you wake up and oh hello there it is again. What the hell, you were supposed to be getting better right?
Tonya: I am so fed up. I pray, I exercise, I eat right, I do the self talks and still have this sick nervous feeling in the pit of my stomach all the time.
Yep. That low lying feeling in the pit of your stomach. You might even wake up with it.
Tonya: Some days are good, they are really good, but when they are bad, they are really bad!
Tonya: I really don’t have anyone to talk to about all this.
Me neither, that’s why I write this blog. LOL. But then you are talking to me, so I guess that’s not entirely true is it hon? Hey, thank God we have each other right?
My husband can look at me and tell I’m not feeling well, but all this fucking pretending is driving me crazy. How do I not care about it. Why the fucking set backs, what’s their point? Sorry for the words, I’m so frustrated!! I only curse when I am really really angry, and I am.
No worries, I curse like a sailor. It’s ok to be angry for a bit. You have to get your feelings out. In fact, I think being angry is GOOD! I want you to use that wonderful energy and direct it toward your recovery now! This can really fuel you. I’m serious. You can do this, and you have what it takes.
If you are in a setback, it means you’re getting better! I know it doesn’t make sense, but nothing about anxiety does, in my opinion.
Let’s start by giving this a thoughtful read: Anxiety Setbacks: How to Get Past Them
Now that you have let your anger out, you need to collect yourself and get busy. Ask the hard questions. How are you doing lately? Remember, if you are
These feelings make anxiety worse. Sounds to me like you are all of the above except hungry. So everything bunched together is overwhelming you. Tonya, it would overwhelm anyone.
Here is a post that will help you understand what it happening, and how to get through it:
There is a psych doctor who is supposed to be really good but doesn’t take insurance and is self pay $290 for the 1st visit and I am actually considering going to see her, but the voices in my head say don’t go, she will just mess you up worse and I say how can it get any worse?
It can’t get worse. It can just continue how it’s going. It already is the worse if you ask me. So maybe you will see the new doctor, and maybe you won’t.
I think once you can collect yourself a bit you will be able to make a decision about this.
I get it about the thinking. Your negative thoughts are really running rampant. That does happen to me from time to time. For me, and I only speak for myself here, that is when I have to up my meds for awhile. I am not helping myself or anyone else when I can’t function. If I can’t get out of my head and my anxiety is running my life, I will use medication to get me over the rough spot.
That said, here is something to help you with the out of control thoughts: How To Stop Anxious Thinking and Racing Thoughts
Ok Tonya, now it’s time for you to get working. But please don’t forget to have tremendous compassion for yourself for all you’ve been going through lately. If I could I would give you a big HUG.
Here’s a little something I want you to remember as you work your way out of this funk:
Positive Affirmations for Anxiety– Say these over and over till they sink in. They are all true.
Here is exactly what I did myself the last time I went through what you are going through- a horrible anxiety setback- read to the end and listen to the audio, it will really help you:
God Bless Tonya. I believe in you and know you will feel better!
If you found this post helpful, I suggest you bookmark it. That way you can refer back the next time you are feeling overwhelmed with anxiety or struggling through a setback.
Now I turn to you. What advice do you have for Tonya about anxiety setbacks? I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences.
I wish you all peace,
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