Here is an update on my journey to overcome anxiety, prompted by this email I received:
Just read the blog it’s so uplifting how well your doing
I need to know what you are doing differently because it is working
I have noticed since you cut down on blogs your new blogs are positive and you are in a wonderful place I am so thrilled you have found peace
I guess what I’m asking is what are you doing that has helped you get through your troubles
Any tit bit will help.
Well thank you for the kind comments. Yes, I am overcoming anxiety and getting better. Actually, when my dad got cancer last summer, my world came to a screeching halt.
I got real serious about my life and real spiritual. Really fast.
I decided that I did not have time for anxiety nonsense. I had to be able to drive my parents into and around New York City (something I had never done in my 46 years) in order for my father to receive the care he needed.
I had to pull my wits together and find a good surgeon who would treat my dad, and fast.
I also had to continue to be a good mom, wife and worker. Life just doesn’t stop just because someone gets sick, after all.
In the process of helping my dad and my family, I had to put panic and anxiety on hold. I could not indulge it, I did not have the time or energy. I was too exhausted from taking care of my parents and being the go to person for everyone in my family.
In this process, somehow I found a space where I realized my life is a beautiful thing. I have my health. It really is such a gift to live.
I am learning to love myself more than I ever hated my anxiety. This is huge for me.
I also learned to separate myself from my anxiety. Anxiety and panic do not run my life. They used to. They used to dominate everything.
I challenge myself every day. I continue to feel fear, and refuse to give into it. This means I have to watch my thoughts a lot, and not let them go into the negative “What If’s”.
I wobble my way through the hard parts. But I keep on going. I made a firm decision that I was no longer going to live my life as I used to- feeling emotionally crippled and less than.
I am letting my self and my body heal. I know it is a natural process for the body to heal, and that it is what our bodies naturally do when we get out of the way and let them!
I eat right and exercise and keep my mind positive. I aim for progress, not perfection, and that is what I get.
I applaud myself for my efforts and treat myself well. I no longer see myself as less than others. I no longer dislike myself
I have this program which I purchased several years ago, called the 11 Forgotten Laws, It makes me feel good when I listen to it, and I have been listening to it religiously since last fall when my father got his bad news.
I have used these recordings to lift me up, and give me what I couldn’t give myself – namely, guidance for how to think correctly, about my life, my anxiety, my father’s illness, my marriage… everything.
As I have said here over and over again, when I do feel anxious I do not retreat from it.
And I do face it. Every day I continue to challenge myself to keep going out there in the world.
The voice of the Anxiety Monster is still there, but it is not as loud as it used to be. Some days I don’t even listen in at all.
I do make efforts to Face My Fears every day:
I make myself show up and go to work every day. I make myself go out and be with new friends whenever I get the chance. I keep myself positive and upbeat with my husband. (I recently went on a plane ride with him for a nice vacation- just the two of us, with no kids. It was so nice!)
While I do all this, I have tremendous loving compassion for myself. I know I have been scared, anxious and depressed for decades, and I need to allow myself all the time I need to heal and feel good.
My anxiety lies mostly with the social stuff- stuff that is directly related to old feelings of low self worth and low self esteem. For me, getting better a process of me challenging myself every day to get out there and interact with people. Learning to trust, learning to love my husband, loving myself, letting people be nice to me, not being ashamed of anything about me. etc.
It is the work of a lifetime, but something about my Dad getting sick really affected me on a deep level, and I knew I no longer wanted to play victim to anxiety. It is my time to shine and keep getting better.
I have gotten so much help from the 11 Forgotten Laws as I mention here in my blog. It helps me feel wonderful and alive and is such good thing to work on daily. I listen to it at least 20 minutes at a time, 4 to 5 times a week. I love making this part of my routine.
As always when I feel scared and anxious I face, accept, float and let time pass- as I have taught you here.
When all else fails, if I feel panic coming on, I use the teachings from the 60 Second Panic Solution program.
Like a gerbil on a wheel I do it over and over and over again. and life is getting better. However, I am a happy, grateful gerbil, learnign to overcome anxiety and other shortcomings in my life.
My mindset has changed for the better, and I guess it is working.
I also see everyone around me as people who have their own challenges and things to work out. I see that we are all equal on this playing field of life. My pain and suffering doesn’t trump anyone else’s. Everyone who lives has to deal with things they don’t like. So it’s ok to be healing from debilitating anxiety. It’s ok as can be.
That being said, I know that while I heal the core of myself, I continue to use a very small amount of medicine help me when I have anxiety symptoms that overwhelm me. I am grateful for the medication and no longer use it as a crutch to numb myself off from life itself.
I find the more I work on myself, the less I need medication.
So with big doses of gratitude and with a lot of prayer, that is, in a nutshell, how I do it. How I am getting better, and overcoming anxiety.
I wish you peace,
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