Are You Minding Your Own Business?


Minding your own business is THE first order of business when it comes to feeling less anxious and stress in this world we live in.

I was inspired when I listened to Byron Katie on Oprah’s Soul Series. Byron is a former sufferer of major depression, obesity, and agoraphobia.

During the depths of her misery, while laying on her bedroom floor staring at a cockroach, she became enlightened. She now teaches others how to end their own suffering…

She notes that there are only Three Businesses in the Universe: Your Business, Everyone Else’s Business, and God’s Business. To achieve inner peace & balance, stay in Your Business only.

*Mind your own business mentally.*flowers

When we are engulfed and worried about earthquakes and floods, that is God’s Business. When we get angry because countries allow starvation and other horrors, that is Other People’s Business. When we ask , “What is right for me?” and “How can I serve?” that is Our Business.

Says Katie, “I’m a lover of what is, not because I’m a spiritual person, but because it hurts when I argue with reality…. When we stop opposing reality action becomes simple, fluid, kind, and fearless.”

Wow. Good Stuff! Did you catch the fearless part?

My old habit was to constantly engage in other people’s business: Why are some people so mean? Why does this one or that one not include me?

Really, what is the sense of focusing on that? All it ever did was make me feel hurt and less than. It added to my anxieties and made things worse.

Today I know I can choose to focus on my business and my business alone. What a wonderful choice. I didn’t even realize I had one!

This is my business:

How can I make today happy for me and for those around me?…How can I be a good person?… How can I spread goodwill today at work and at home?

This is keeping my mind where it needs to be- on me, and rooted in action and positivity. If I keep the focus on my business, all the other stuff becomes much less significant.

I swear this stuff works. I used to be almost obsessed with my neighbors and how they acted so mean girlish to me and left me out of things. It was what I focused on and where I put my energy.

Then when I would get invited to something with them my social anxiety would kick in high gear because I had so many negative emotions about these women and second guessed their motives, etc. I would feel depressed and anxious for days before and after. What an waste of my energy and friendship.

Today I can say I have real peace about the situation. It is a non issue for me today- and I am so thankful for the peace that brings! I no longer give these women any of my mental energy. I wish them well and I am happy to live my life surrounding myself with people who genuinely like me.

Tonight I am going out with some of the people at work. This is the third time I have done something social with my new friends. It feels right and good and very life- affirming.

And you- are you arguing with reality? Where are you putting your mental energy? Are you minding your own business? :)

I wish you peace,
Jill G.

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