In our last post we discussed important questions to ask a therapist when seeking help for anxiety.
Anxiety is very treatable with the right help. Never forget that!
However you do have to find the right help. If you aren’t getting the results you want from therapy, questions you should be asking yourself include the following:
-Am I comfortable with this person?
-Do I feel safe here?
After a few sessions, you should begin to develop a sense of rapport and trust with your therapist. Ask yourself if you feel reasonably comfortable talking about your anxiety issue with this person?
On a forum discussion about qualities of a good therapist, one of the group members said the following (and I agree):
Experience and energy are a plus. the most important thing is that i (rather he or she) try to establish a plan of action so that your not stuck in therapy for the rest of your life. My current therapist believes that 4-8 months is sufficient as long as i am making progress and staying on track. You should be learning something and not just talking the whole time. They are meant to provide you with the tools to better cope with anxiety…
Another great point from that same forum thread:
A good therapist will teach you techniques to lessen your anxiety… point out your cognitive distortions and have you practice whatever it is you need practice in. For instance, a social phobe needs to practice going out and meeting people. A depressed person needs to stop isolating and start looking for activities to force themselves to get out of bed. And so on . .
Other important therapy questions to consider:
-Are you intimidated by your therapist? (if so, can you discuss this with the therapist to get past it?)
-Are you treated with respect and courtesy?
-Are you able to ask for what you need?
-Do you expect them to be perfect? (Remember, they are human)
-Does the therapist say things that make you feel uncomfortable?
-After several sessions, do you feel you are making improvements and starting to feel better?
-Do you feel hopeful and energized after a therapy session?
-Are you given homework assignments between sessions so you can mark your progress and try new skills?
If you don’t feel you are getting the results you want, speak up.
Remember you are paying for a valuable service, and I bring up these therapy questions to give you pause for thought.
I wish you peace,