Ever wonder what to do if you’re having a bad day? I came up with 3 easy tips that can help. I happen to be coming off a really tough weekend and here I am on Monday faced with the daunting prospect of beginning my week anew. Figuring out how to take this and the weirdness I feel and make it a good day is my goal…
Last Friday I got sick at the end of my shift with a 24 hour stomach flu. It came on fast and furious and literally with about 5 minutes warning. After I got sick in the locker room for about 20 minutes, I somehow managed to drive home. I was shaking and sweating the whole time and my stomach was all cramped up.
When I got home I went straight to the bathroom, where I pretty much camped out the entire night. It was nasty.
The next morning (Saturday) I was greeted not with a cup of tea, but instead with the surly specter of my husband, in full blown nicotine withdrawal. He had decided to try quitting smoking again. He tries to kick cigarettes about once a year and his nicotine withdrawal tends to involve a lot of yelling and anger and delusional behavior, primarily directed at me.
Earlier in the week He had made big plans for Saturday, including a trip to the Museum of Modern Art followed by a fabulous Indian dinner.
So when I woke up still shaky and told him sorry but there was no way I was up to this, he was 100% delusional and absolutely exploded:
You never want to do anything! I spent so much time trying to plan this day! You ruined my entire weekend! God damn it! F#ck this shit!! Etc etc.
Nice! Yes because getting the FLU is nothing but my madcap way of spoiling your weekend.
It was absolutely ridiculous. For a fleeting moment I actually entertained the notion of going to the freaking museum complete with stomach cramps and vomiting just to shut him up.
But as a result of this- Me getting the Flu just to tick him off, he didn’t speak to me the entire weekend. Not one word.
It was beyond ridiculous. You know how when you’re really sick you want your mother? Well I would have taken anything, a kind word, a blanket. Anything. Well, I got nothing… Nada.
Actually that’s not true. What I got was 2 fun filled days of baby games with a grown man who was having a full on temper tantrum. I swear the only thing he was missing was a diaper.
What to Do if You’re Having a Bad Day:
I woke up this morning feeling spent, angry, raw, nervous. Yucky… So in the interest of self preservation and anxiety self help, I came up with these 3 tips:
1. Do Not Let the Past Ruin the Present
It’s really easy to take what has happened in the past and carry it into the present. For me I could be all whoa is me and feel sorry for myself because I was sick and my hubby was being a jerk.
So anyhow, here I am facing the day- it’s Monday morning, all bright and sunny out. I felt weird from the weekend and started to feel anxious, but then I thought better of it.
If I stay angry, stressed, sad, or just negative in general who am I really hurting?
I decided to look at the reality of the situation instead, in order to have compassion and understanding. My husband was in nicotine withdrawal. He went back on the cigarettes after this weekend and I can only imagine that feels bad. I know he wants to quit and I know he wasn’t really that invested in going to the museum and dinner. He needed to stay busy so he wouldn’t smoke and I threw a wrench in it.
After seeing it this way, I don’t even feel mad at him anymore.
And, if I stay negative, what will that do to me later at work? Will I be at my best emotionally when I have to be out and about and performing at work?
Uh.. No! When I hold onto anger and negativity it can lead to stupid Anxiety! I say No Way Jose! I will not do that.
2. Don’t Just Sit There.
I can’t change what happened this weekend, but I can take steps to face my day with my best foot forward. I have to release my negative energy and the weird feelings I have this morning and get in a better mood. There is no way I want to feel jittery and weird going into work if I can help it.
So I hit the gym, even tho I didn’t really feel like it. I exercised my butt off, broke a sweat, and raised my heart rate for an hour.
Now that the class is over, I’m really glad I went- I feel so much better!
When you’re having a bad day, if you can take stock of how you feel and do a little physical activity, you will feel better.
3. Remember: This Too Shall Pass
I’m married 18 years, we have our ups and downs. this weekend will fade into memory in no time It really isn’t that big a deal at all. In fact, it is nothing. This Too Shall Pass… Unless I choose to let it fuel me the wrong way and ruin my day today.
This I refuse to do. My stomach is better Thank God. The day is bright and sunny Thank God. I have a job that is challenging me to work on overcoming panic attack and that I really like Thank god.
Next time you’re wondering what to do if you’re having a bad day, I hope you can remember these 3 little tips. they helped me today and they can do the same for you.
I have turned my day around thank God.
I wish you peace,