1. You spend more time reading and researching the internet and bitching on anxiety forums about your anxiety than actually working on it (and count that as work).
2. You aren’t really very interested in your recovery from anxiety. That’s a lot of work after all. *Yawn*…
3. You spend too much time trying to figure out a way to AVOID situations. (In that same amount of time, you could have just gone out there and done something small – and achieved a little victory from which to build on).
4. You don’t take action because you worry that you have been anxious and sick for too long. You think no one has ever had it as bad as you (Taking NO action is a surefire way to avoid progress – and to avoid mistakes that will help you figure out what works for you and what doesn’t.)
5. It’s too scary. You figure it’s just easier to take pills and not think about it. Even if it makes you a shell of the person you once were.
6. You spend the majority of your day doing “busy work” instead of focusing on one thing you could do today to get out there and expose yourself and prove that you can take action despite anxiety and have success.
7. You make excuses instead of creating solutions. Someone who “should” be supportive isn’t, you have a tough marriage, your childhood was horrible, you’re too busy raising your family, etc…
8. You compare yourself to others and to what you think THEY have (perfect lives, perfect families, great social lives), instead of comparing YOUR progress against your own goals.
9. You think, how could some little outdated book like Hope and Help for Your Nerves possibly help me? It was written DECADES ago. My situation is far too complicated…
10. You think, What’s The Use? You tried therapy, pills, and books before and nothing worked. You never think that your perspective about the situation is what may need to change.