Functioning with anxiety attacks is anything but easy. I struggled in my youth to walk that fine line between being a functional student and then member of society while trying to hide my terrible secret from the world, lest they think I was bonkers. At times it was very, very hard to show up for school or work, because I knew I would have to suffer through anxiety attacks.
Although I was never housebound, I had agoraphobia- a fear of open spaces. This was compounded with panic disorder and a big order of social anxiety on the side. I lived my life while functioning with anxiety attacks.
The Old Way- Using Props
As a young person, I knew I had to show up to class, and later show up to work- panic attacks or not. So I would use various props and do whatever things I need to do to make getting through my day easier.
My big fear in college- the crazy thought that came with every anxiety attack – was that I would projectile vomit right in the middle of a lecture. So I used various props and did everything I could to make sure my stomach was calm and quiet before class. The goal each day was to make it through my lectures- which were anywhere from an hour and a half to 3 hours.
To keep myself feeling ok, I would not eat before class, always have mint gum, tums, and seltzer water on hand, and always have tissues with me just in case…Also, I positioned myself to have a b-line to the exit- I would sit in the last row on the seat closest to the door.
Also, I would make sure my pants weren’t too tight so as not to put too much pressure on my stomach. Most importantly was to make sure I always had an extra tranquilizer in my pocket. If I felt very uncomfortable during class, or felt an anxiety attack coming on, I would discreetly pop a pill into my mouth and dissolve it under my tongue. Or chew it if I was really bad.
Carrying that extra pill with me was something I did almost every day of my life until just a few years ago.
I would modify and adapt these things to help me function in various situations in my life. I remember when my oldest daughter was a baby, pushing the stroller was better than walking without one- so was wearing sunglasses.
Life didn’t stop just because I was anxious and coping with anxiety attacks was what I had to do daily. So I did the best I could to self sooth with the props. If some things were just too hard, I sometimes just stopped doing them.
I hated driving on the highway, for example. So I avoided it unless absolutely necessary. If the highway was unavoidable, I would give myself a lot of extra time and would stay in the slow lane the whole way. And still I had to contend with the anxiety attacks.
I eventually gave up going to church, because I couldn’t deal with feeling like I was going to puke or die every week in God’s house. Besides, wasn’t church supposed to comfort me? I remember being really mad at God and thinking it was particularly cruel of Him to make this impossible for me.
I did believe that functioning with anxiety attacks meant modifying my environment to make me as comfortable as possible. I did scrape by and remain functional- but man, did I suffer.
The agony of an anxious person going back to work on a Monday after the weekend is something my friends and family could never in a million years understand.
I Learned A Better Way
Eventually by the grace of God, I learned functioning with anxiety attacks didn’t have to mean I had to put so much energy and preparation into doing everyday things, only to have multiple panic attacks anyways and feel like I was just barely surviving getting thought the day.
It did not have to mean the only relief I ever had when out in public was when i was properly medicated or could taste an extra pill dissolving under my tongue…
I learned that I change from being this anxious person functioning with anxiety attacks and suffering every single day, to being a functioning anxious person.
I had read again and again about Facing, Accepting, Floating, and Letting Time Pass from Claire Weeks in Hope and Help for your Nerves. And frankly I was sick & tired of living at the mercy of stupid anxiety. I wasn’t happy and I longed to be the person I once was before all this panic and fear overtook my life. So I decided to give it a really good effort…
I picked up my dogeared book and read it like I had never read it in my life. I wanted to learn exactly *how* to do these 4 simple steps: Face, Accept, Float, Let time pass.
I learned that by using all my props and extra medication, I was not helping myself. I was only keeping my anxiety alive and staying very very afraid of it. I learned that I had 2 fears, first fear- which is normal fear – but I also heaped tons and tons of second fear on top of it. All those “Oh my God, here it comes… Oh no, not again..”
And this- the second fear- absolutely blindsided me every day with the prospect of the next impending panic attack.
Once I learned to Face, Accept,Float, and Let Time Pass- just a little bit, my burden began to lift.
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I wish you peace,
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