A safe person is someone who you depend on to help you through the tough times. When you first experience anxiety or panic attacks, your safe person may be a grandparent, spouse, sibling, or trusted friend. It doesn’t even matter if they understand what you’re going through. Your safe person supports you and doesn’t judge you, and therefore you can let your guard down with them.
But it’s really super important to learn to actually be your own safe person. Then you can truly know that you can handle anything anxiety throws your way, because you take your own cure with you.
At our core, the reason we feel anxious in the first place is because we don’t feel safe. We feel we need something – or someone- to hold onto. Why not strive to be your own safe person? In the midst of fear, you will have the tools within you to face and accept any situation.
Benefits of being your own safe person:
1. You are always there for you.
2. You don’t have to wait on another person to go out to practice sitting in a restaurant or to go shopping or to do anything for that matter.
3. You become more self reliant and this feeds your self esteem big time! 🙂
That sounds great, but how do I become my own safe person?
By practicing relaxation, you learn to tap into that safe place that resides within you–the place of inner peace, and true serenity. It’s in there, believe me. Maybe you’ve been anxious for so long you don’t remember it, but it is there. At it’s essence it is the healing nature of your body- the force that brings you back into balance and equilibrium, and it is present in every living thing, you included. 🙂
There are some great ways to tap into your very special place of relaxation and I encourage you to try to find a method that helps you to get there. Here are some of the best ways I know to do this:
Yoga for anxiety relief. Yoga is an ancient practice that combines stretching, postures, and breathing. It is a physical, mental, and spiritual discipline whose goal is the achieving of complete and utter tranquility.
The benefits of yoga can be felt long after the class or session is over. When I do yoga exercises first thing in the morning, or even in the middle of the day, I set the stage for calm inner peace. I feel connected to myself and safe in the world.
Meditation. The goal of meditation is to train your mind to be peaceful and relaxed. Healing meditation is suggested for all forms of panic, anxiety, and stress. Meditation for anxiety relieves stress and tension and brings wonderful relaxation, peace and serenity.
Positive affirmations and visualizations. This is where you tell yourself what you will become while you picture it vividly in your mind. Picture yourself having peace and being calm wherever you go while you repeat positive affirmations to yourself. You repeat the process over and over and in time, what you think you become. What you believe, you receive.
Self hypnosis for anxiety. This is where you put yourself into a self induced state of calm suggestibility. To do, you simply listen to a hypnosis recording while you relax. The suggestions help re-train your brain about the thoughts you have about panic attacks and anxiety. These healthy thoughts and coping strategies live in your subconscious mind where you can use and apply them in your daily waking state.
Progressive muscle relaxation. This is a technique that reduces anxiety by helping you to notice tension in your muscles. To practice, you lay with your eyes closed while you slowly tighten and release muscles groups from head to toe. With practice, you learn how to effectively relax your muscles and let go of tension when you feel your anxiety getting to an unhealthy level.
When you commit to learning a method that helps you to relax and find inner peace, you will have a powerful coping strategy to help you when you get anxious- no matter where you are. Review the methods described above and choose one that feels good to you. Commit to learning and practicing it every day.
For example, if you choose to try Positive Affirmations, do jot down several for you and recite them throughout the day to yourself. Especially upon awakening. Keep them in the back of your mind at all times, and positively visualize good outcomes in all your daily happenings. And keep on doing it.
If you choose to try Yoga, then devote a small amount of time each week for your practice. This can be 2 – 5 times per week, depending on your schedule (having a good yoga DVD like this one is super helpful for this, so it is available right when you are). Then in addition to the yoga exercises, you can practice that wonderful yogic breathing throughout the day. You will feel peace and inner tranquility.
If you are out and about and start to feel an impending panic attack, you can go to your safe person- yourself- while actively practicing self help for panic attacks: You can face the fear with utter acceptance, lean towards it slightly, let the panic wash over you, etc. But now you are doing it with proper diaphragmatic breathing, or in conjunction with powerful affirmations for anxiety that you have committed to and believe. You gradually learn to trust in your strength and know you will come out alright on the other side.
And so it is.
You have to believe in yourself. You and you alone hold the key to your anxiety recovery. No doctor or pill or therapist can do it for you. Since this is the case, doesn’t it seem logical that you should want to learn to be your very best safe person?
Can you try to learn one of these relaxation strategies to help you become your own safe person?
I wish you peace,
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