One of the biggest barriers that prevents people from recovering from anxiety is that people don’t believe they can get better. They think the anxiety they have is far worse than what other people go through. They think they don’t have what it takes to recover.
I’m here to tell you that thinking is a load of crap.
But I get it. Because I thought that way for years…
After the birth of Samantha 14 years ago I had a case of postpartum depression and anxiety so severe, I didn’t think I would survive. I would lament and cry and wonder how was I ever going to take care of this beautiful child when I felt so ill-equipped to handle life.
If someone could have told me back then that I would someday be better, I never would have believed them.
Around age 34, I was probably at the lowest point in my life. My marriage was falling apart, I had 2 children that completely depended on me, and my anxiety was off the charts. I had no friends or support system. I didn’t think anyone had ever had anxiety worse than me. I thought I was unique. I was actually pissed at God. I used to think, Why did you single me out for this hell on earth? I’d rather have cancer- at least that would have to end!!
If someone would have told me back then that not only would I recover from anxiety someday, but I would come to live a full life of happiness and quality, I never would have believed them.
“As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.”
– Proverbs 23:7
The good news is that no matter how debilitating your anxiety is, no matter how long you’ve suffered, you have the power to get better.
The power to heal is within you. You hold the key. Nobody is born with social anxiety or panic disorder, it comes about from distorted thinking in response to some sort of trauma. There may be a genetic predisposition, but no one is born this way.
Do you believe you can get better too? Or do you think your case of anxiety is so special or severe that you are doomed to live out your days terrified of living? It’s OK if you don’t believe it today. It obviously took me many years of suffering before I changed my mindset.
My childhood friend Cindy had a mom who was housebound with agoraphobia. She lived that way for 30+ years. She was warm and wonderful and smart and interesting, and I grew to love her very much. As I started to get better a few years ago, I didn’t understand why she didn’t get better too. After all, everything I was doing was available to her too. This lady now has Alzheimer’s disease and lives in a nursing home. She never got to experience the freedom of recovery from anxiety and that makes me very sad.
Please don’t use your anxiety as an excuse. I’m not here to preach, but it’s really such a waste of precious time. Life is not meant to be lived shackled with anxiety. I wasted my youth. I’m not willing to waste any more of my life.
You are not doomed. You are not beyond help. Your case is not hopeless…..Unless of course you believe it is. If you refuse to believe you can get better, all the anxiety self help books and programs in the world aren’t going to cure you.
For me, I had to get to the point where the pain of living with anxiety and panic attacks outweighed any fears I might have about getting better. Recovery from anxiety is hard work. I’m not going to lie to you, it’s not some walk in the park. But once that little shift occurred within me, where I was no longer willing to sacrifice the quality of my life to some stupid freaking anxiety disorder, that’s when real healing began for me.
“What you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.”
I wish you peace,
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