How to Beat Morning Anxiety So You Can Have a Good Day

Today’s topic is Morning Anxiety: why it happens, what it feels like, and some practical solutions to help you feel better FAST so you can get on with your day.

Kay said: “I found myself waking up today edgy and I so hate being in the agitated state. More edginess ….morning anxiety

I feel my mind is swirling. Going from one trial to another. Like you, my problems are all real. Very real.  It is not like past anxiety thoughts, “what if…..” NO! These issues I face are real, raw, in your face issues..

Worse, I do not want to feel and be this way. I do not like or want or these  problems in my life, health, family and things today, in this moment, I cannot do anything about.  So what can I do?”

Jill said: Hi Kay, I’m sorry you are suffering. Yes, life is sometimes full of problems. Sometimes it can seem overwhelming. And if you wake up with morning anxiety, you will not be able to think with a clear head, nor make thoughtful, productive decisions. Continue reading

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Social Anxiety at Thanksgiving- I Felt Weird Around My Cousin

I hope you all are doing well going into the holiday season! Last week here in the US was Thanksgiving.  I celebrated at my sister’s house in upstate NY. And I had a bout of social anxiety along with my turkey and gravy and stuffing. Boo 🙁setbacks are temporary

It kind of sucked. My cousin and her husband from Brooklyn joined us and I was unable to connect with her the way I wanted to, because I was feeling weird and anxious around her.

It was not horrible, I didn’t panic or anything, but I felt guarded and had low level anxiety around her for most of the time.

My cousin is someone I rarely see now, but I grew up with her and so have a lot of history there. I know social anxiety can be triggered by anything, and certainly a history with a cousin who knows me well qualifies.

It was uncomfortable and it made me sad the next day, because I love her and really hated how I felt. It felt as if I was role-playing– and I was!

I was covering up how I really felt (which was anxious) so she wouldn’t notice. But the result of me acting that way was we really didn’t connect the way I wanted to. And I felt bad.

I couldn’t give and take in the conversation because I was all hung up in my head wondering how she was feeling about me, what her husband thought of me, was I acting ok, etc.

I’m sure the truth was they weren’t thinking of me at all. But social anxiety makes you think you’re the focus of everyone around you.

So I felt bad and couldn’t remember what to do to make myself feel better in the moment. God I hate it when that happens. 😛

Looking back, of course now, I wish I had excused myself and gone into a bedroom or the bathroom for a few minutes to center myself and reconnect.

And going forward in this holiday season, this is what I am going to remind myself, should social anxiety strike again:

Stay in Gratitude

There is always so much to be grateful for! I was blessed to be able to be around my family this Thanksgiving, however it happened.

I have an aunt who didn’t want to join us for the holiday. My aunt has a lot of negativity and depression. So while it hurts my mother’s feelings (my aunt is her sister) that she doesn’t want to be around us, I understand. I remember a time when I was so anxious, I would avoid family functions.

And I have been feeling and doing so well lately in my life, something to celebrate and not to lose sight of!

I love my cousin and her husband, and even if I was anxious, I don’t regret a single moment spent with them.

Setbacks happen, it’s no big deal

Weird feelings and anxious times come and go. Such is the nature of life it seems. With maturity, I am learning to have an open mind about whatever comes up for me emotionally.

While I may temporarily feel bad or beat myself up, I quickly dust myself off and get back in the saddle and onto living my life.

I don’t wallow in self pity or regret. Well, I do it a little, but I don’t stay there, thank God. In fact, I can look back at the situation and ask myself What did I learn?

Well, first and foremost I need to continue to be kind and loving towards myself.

When I feel socially anxious, it’s because I perceive that others are judging me harshly. Judging my life, my person, my choices.

The truth is, I am judging myself harshly with a story in my head – and projecting that onto others. That’s what causes the separation and makes me feel anxious.

I “forgot” my connection to my cousin because I had a mental movie running in my head that she was judging me.

The truth is, my cousin loves me despite how I felt, despite me not being able to relax around her.

And I can forgive myself for this old anxiety habit, and not let it snowball into some big thing.

I said this before and I’ll say it again:

Setbacks are a normal part of anxiety recovery. So accept it as part of the process and be kind to yourself. Hug yourself. Tell yourself you’ll be fine, because you will. Being nice to yourself after you have had an anxiety filled day can really help set the stage for a better day tomorrow.

There are so many tools to help!

Anyone who is in my middle age group will remember a time when there was no internet. Young people have no idea. It really sucked!

There was so little information available about social anxiety.

Outside of going to the library and finding an old book or maybe talking to someone (which for me wasn’t always helpful), you just had to suck it up the best you could.

It was a pretty bewildering time in my life.

Today thankfully, there are so many wonderful tools and resources online to help us get back on track after a setback.

You literally can get help in minutes when you need it. It really is such a blessing!

When I was having a hard time a few months ago, I brushed myself off and dove into the things that always help me.

Specifically, I went back and reviewed the 60 Second Panic Solution. That’s the anxiety program that works like a charm for me.

I also had specific challenges, so I went and did some self hypnosis to help myself with that. Hypnosis is always helpful and can retrain faulty thinking and get you back on track.

I also found a very helpful person online and did an online Skype session with him. It was expensive, but worth it.

I also shared my struggles with friends and family in an appropriate way. Asking for and receiving help and support is incredibly liberating and healing.

Anxious people tend to hold everything inside. Letting it out can feel really good! 🙂

And more recently, I’ve been doing a 6 minute energy healing for anxiety routine. It feels so nice! It feels like coming home to myself.

Ok, well that’s it for today.

And you, how are you doing as the holidays are fast approaching? Will you be hosting or going to social gatherings? Does your social anxiety get triggered this time of year? I’d love to hear how you’re doing. Leave a comment and let’s chat!

I wish you peace,

Jill G.

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Energy Healing for Anxiety – How a 6 Minute Morning Routine is Helping Me Feel More Calm & Balanced

As a nurse, it’s easy for me to witness on a daily basis how our bodies heal themselves.It is something I don’t ever question. I know that bodies heal, even when conditions aren’t optimal.

energy healing

I’ve seen cases where patients weren’t expected to fare well, and they did. Healing is natural, it happens to all of us all the time- even if we aren’t aware of it.

And healing, as we’ve all perhaps witnessed firsthand or read about, can be miraculous. It’s just what nature does.

Recently I have been looking into healing energy, energy medicine, and tapping into that power for healing anxiety.

Becasue healing doesn’t just happen on a physical level, after all.

And I’ve been pleased and excited with these findings. Because for years I was trapped into thinking that being crippled with anxiety was outside of my control. That I was doomed to live constricted and in a fearful way forever.

What I’ve been learning is that we can block or impede our emotional healing and physical healing, by our negative thoughts and habits.

Clearly, my thinking was very negative with respect to my mind’s ability to heal. I wanted more than anything feel better. But the truth was I didn’t believe I could heal.

That was me blocking my own energy. Me being in a state of resistance. Getting in my own way.

And yet, even with my negativity, I was able to make great strides.

When I started this blog almost 10 years ago, I was in great pain. But I had hope. I knew somehow I could get better,

I’ve been learning to undo “my story” I created around being anxious. For the past few years, I have done this by listening to The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle on audio CD.

He has taught me that I am not my mind. That the story in my head is not who I am.

That when I have fear and anxiety, I can watch it, but not attach to it. I can witness and notice the sensations without getting sucked in and making a drama around it.

When I have nagging, persistent negative thoughts, I can undo them by doing a Judge Your Neighbor Worksheet from The Work of Byron Katie.

(I highly recommend both Byron Katie and Eckhart Tolle to anyone suffering from anxiety!)

But back to using Energy Healing for Anxiety…

The other day I stumbled across a book on Amazon called The Healing Code: 6 Minutes to Heal the Source of Your Health, Success, or Relationship Issue.

I noticed all the 5 star reviews and read a bunch of them.

Curious, I read what I could about the process and also found some great information on YouTube, which I will share with you below.

The Healing Code is basically a way to heal illnesses and whatever is wrong in the body or mind. It works with by moving energy at the cellular level- where we store trauma and illness.

This little process takes only 6 minutes to do. (You’re supposed to do it twice a day for optimal results.)

To do it, you start by saying a prayer. Then you perform a set of movements with fingers of both hands pointing to (but not touching):

1. The Third Eye area (Bridge of nose)
2. Adam’s apple (Throat Chakra)
3. Angle of the Jaw
4. Just above the Temples

Each position is held for 30 seconds and the sequence is repeated several times for a total of 6 minutes

I started doing it last week.

Last weekend was a great success for me. I felt well, and I wasn’t all reactionary with my husband, like I usually am on weekends and have been for years (in fact I ruined the Saturday before because I couldn’t stop my mouth. This lead to so much pain and suffering for me and him!)

So far I can say it is helping. I definitely believe that this is helping heal me. I feel calm and balanced.

I feel accepting, non-reactive, and peaceful. So nice!

Perhaps it is an amplified version of prayer, who knows?

There are definitely a lot of people who think this is nonsense, but I don’t care. There are more people who say that it helps them.

It it works, I do it. Period.

Here is the version of the prayer I use:

“I pray that all known and unknown negative images, unhealthy beliefs, destructive cellular memories and all physical issues related to this condition would be found, opened and healed by filling me with the life, light and love of the Divine. I also pray that the effectiveness of this healing be increased by 100 times or more.”

Here is a really helpful video I found that explains how to do The Healing Code 6 Minute Routine:

And this next video is also really helpful. It has a timer on it. You can just move your hand positions on queue every 30 seconds. You can look at the beautiful angel paintings and read along with the prayer:

So I am using this Healing Code healing energy exercise to help heal my anxiety and other ailments. If you have 6 minutes to spare, I hope you will check it out for yourself!

Here is the link to Amazon in case you want to check out the Healing Code book for yourself. I think you can do it just fine though, using these two videos.

I wish you peace,
Jill G.

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What to do When You’re Lonely or Anxious

Teachings from every religion tell us that we are complete and perfect the way we are. 

Well, that sounds fine and dandy, but when you are feeling anxious or lonely, it sure is easy to forget. For me, I always feel isolated and disconnected. It’s a very unsettling feeling, and I feel that discomfort right in my gut.

I watched a video from Jeff Foster recently about How to Not Leave Yourself when You’re Going Through a Breakup– and it really helped me.

Never "Break Up" With Yourself – The Spiritual Invitation of E…

Jeff Foster talks of a 'break-up' as a spiritual opportunity – to meet yourself very deeply. To 'break-up' the addiction to past and future, and connect with your body in the present moment. To not abandon yourself for another person. Filmed in Holland, 2016.

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Jeff Foster talks of a ‘break-up’ as a spiritual opportunity – to meet yourself very deeply. To ‘break-up’ the addiction to past and future, and connect with your body in the present moment. To not abandon yourself for another person.

Now, I am not going through a break up right now, and maybe you aren’t either. But the teaching in this video was so helpful and applicable to everyday living. Especially for an anxious person.

Here are some notes and takeaways from the teaching:

Whenever I feel a sense of loneliness, anxiety or abandonment, I can know that others didn’t abandon me. It was me experiencing separation, trying to get away from the feeling and abandoning myself.

Loneliness, anxiety, and negative emotions like that come from feeling separate. I feel separate, or apart, from others.

But the real reason I feel lonely is because I have separated from myself– from my essence, from consciousness. I think I need something outside me,  to complete me, or to feel better.

But the truth is that we are already complete. However, we have our egos, and hold the belief that we are a person, someone with a story, a past, someone with problems, etc.. This separates us from reality (which is always kinder than our thinking) and covers up who we really are.

In reality we are one with all that is. We are connected to our stillness, to the vast eternal, to consciousness. We are all one consciousness.

We, in our loneliness and anxiety, are like a branch that forgets it a part of a tree.

When we “remember” our completeness, we cannot be lonely. Even if we are alone.

The antidote to this is to not turn away from the unpleasant feeling.

Instead of resisting or turning away, try allowing yourself to feel the unpleasant feelings. Do not resist or try to eat or move or do any addictive behavior to make it go away. For in doing so you abandon yourself. You are looking outside yourself for comfort, for relief.

But the answer, the solution is not “out there.”

Instead be with the feeling completely. Be present to transmute it. Stay with it.

All of a sudden, everything feels better. Lighter…

And also, once we remember we are complete, our energy is different , and we no longer live and act in a lonely, needy way. I have discovered this firsthand in my life.

So now, once we understand this, we can be on guard. When we experience anxiety or loneliness again, we can use this as a wake-up call to practice being present.

To be where you are NOW.

So, when you feel those pangs of negative emotion, you must embrace them. We as humans use everything to cover up and push away loneliness. We eat, shop, watch TV, take pills, drink, gossip, lay on the couch, and do every addictive behavior under the sun.

I am saying We here, but the truth is, I am talking about myself. I have done all of the above and more, to get away from unpleasant feelings.

But to be with the feeling, to turn toward it, you learn to create space around it in the stillness. And once you do that, it goes away pretty quickly.

When I no longer resist an unpleasant feeling, and instead, just give it space to be, it dissolves. It goes back into nothing.

Then once again you feel complete. You are in your natural state.

Your energy field is different. Life become sweeter.

This is a life changing realization. 🙂

Now obviously I’m not at the state where I remember this all the time. That is why I am blogging about it. I am writing it down as a reminder to myself. and also because I hope this reaches others who need to hear it.

A good way, I have found, to stay in a state of connection with others, is to focus on stillness, kindness, and gratitude.

As someone who lived in an anxious state for years, it is second nature for me to feel distant from others.

However, I am unlearning this unnatural way of being, and remembering my true nature, which is to be peaceful and happy among others.

I wish you peace,

Jill G.

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Panic Attacks in Children & Childhood Anxiety Disorder Treatment

how to help a child with anxietyUpdate: My nephew Noah (age 9) is currently having much relief from his school anxiety because his parents are using the principles of this program. He is back to his happy self again, and there is no greater feeling than that…

The Anxiety-Free Child Program is a tremendously useful program to help parents with school aged children who are having a rough time with anxiety, panic attacks, and school phobia.

I had the the opportunity to review the whole program and all I can say is, where was this when my daughter Sam was going through her ordeal? This is immediate anxiety help available at your fingertips- strategies you as parents can implement and teach your child right now to empower them and help them start to feel better right away.

Anxiety-Free Child Program


Panic Attacks in Children & Childhood Anxiety Disorder TreatmentAs parents your natural instinct is to soothe your child’s fears. This has been your job from day one. So it is very disturbing when your child suffers from an anxiety disorder or panic attacks. You’d do anything to make your child feel better, if only you knew what in the world to do.

The purpose of this article is to discuss panic attacks in children, explain the symptoms, and discuss childhood anxiety disorder treatment from a mother who has been there.

You can learn how to help a child with anxiety.

Anxiety is a normal part of being a child. Nearly every child is afraid of something at some point. But when a child starts to avoid certain everyday situations because of fear, this is not normal childhood fear. This is a phobia.

When my daughter Samantha was in second grade, she was traumatized by a particularly severe thunderstorm, in which lightning actually struck the convenience store we were in, causing the air conditioning unit to implode and glass to shatter.

Soon after this incident, she became hysterical when it started thundering at a small town carnival and we had to rush to get her to the car. Thunderstorms became a dreaded emotional experience in our household.

In short time, she developed a phobia of not only thunder but clouds, even on sunny days. It got to the point where she would refuse to go outside even on a beautiful summer day, for fear of a thunderstorm.

Signs and Symptoms of panic attacks in children:

A child often doesn’t have the words to describe what is happening to him or her during a panic attack. Even if they can describe their feelings they may be reluctant or embarrassed to let you know how frightened they really are. Therefore as parents and caregivers, it is important to identify the signs and symptoms the child is exhibiting.

The symptoms of panic attacks in children are the same as in adolescents or adults. They include:

  • Shortness of breath or difficulty taking a deep breath
  • Intense fear
  • Racing heartbeat
  • Dizziness or lightheadedness
  • Trembling or shaking in the extremities
  • Depersonalization, or a sense of unreality
  • Fear of losing control, dying or going crazy

If panic disorder in children goes unrecognized and left untreated, the complications can be difficult. The attacks begin to interfere with the child’s relationships, school and normal social development. This was the case with me: my untreated panic attacks childhood from abuse I received in my Christian school led to a lifetime (well, 30 plus years) of agoraphobia, social anxiety disorder and panic attacks.

Thankfully, this was not the case with my daughter.

Children with panic attacks can start to feel anxious a good deal of the time, even when they are not actually having a panic attack. For my daughter Samantha, her initial phobia of the thunderstorms developed into a fear of clouds in general, making it very difficult to go outside even on sunny days.

The thunderstorm that started the phobia was in August. When the new school year began the next month, she started to become frightened of going from our house to the bus stop. Every day as the bus pulled away, I had to watch my child crying. It was heartbreaking. We had to speak to the school and arrange for her teacher to physically help Sam get off the bus and into the school. This went on every day for weeks.

Her separation anxiety became more pronounced that fall. Social events such as birthday parties were agonizing for my child. I remember one party that was held at a local gymnastics center. Sam was very excited to go, as she loved this friend and also loved gymnastics. However as we drove to the party, her mood changed and she became frightened.

“Mommy I don’t want to go.”

“Sam honey it will be fun.”

“I want to go home.”

“Sweetie, all your friends are there.”

(crying now) “Mommy I want to go home now!”

By the time we got to the party she was highly frightened and almost inconsolable. She was crying and shaking and I had to hold her physically. After what seemed like forever, I was able to get her to calm down enough to go in. She was clingy and wouldn’t interact with her classmates and friends until almost the end of the party. I felt like a bad mom because she was so frightened and cruel because I pretty much forced her go to the party.

Childhood Anxiety Disorder Treatment

A pediatric psychiatrist stressed that we (we being me and my husband) shouldn’t give into Sam’s avoidance behaviors. This was not as easy as it sounds.

During this phase, we painfully weathered the clouds, the school bus, and the birthday parties. It was absolutely heartbreaking to see her suffer like that. My words and hugs couldn’t soothe her. If you’ve ever tried to sooth a hysterical inconsolable 7 year old girl, and then actually force her to do the very thing she is afraid of, you know how gut wrenching this is.

However, the key is we did seek treatment for her. By following the suggestions of her doctor and not giving into Sam’s panic, we were able to get her to to school every day on the yellow school bus. And we attended every party we were invited to. It was not easy. It would have been far easier to just say, forget this! and go home. And I do admit there were times I really felt like throwing in the towel. I would plead to her doctor, “what the hell good is it for her to go to a party when she’s hysterical?”

Panic attacks in children cause a tremendous amount of suffering, both for the frightened child, and his or her parents or caregivers as well. It is crucial to seek childhood anxiety disorder treatment as soon as you feel your child is experiencing panic attacks. When properly evaluated, like my Sam, childhood panic attacks respond well to treatment.

And speaking of treatment, getting the right help was no walk in the park for us. We saw a total of 3 doctors and 1 social worker to help us with Sam’s anxiety. It was excruciating, expensive, and only 1 doctor helped us at all. If you are deciding to seek therapy for your child, be sure to listen to your instincts and persist until you find one who really knows what they’re doing.

I also suggest you read everything you can about anxiety and panic attacks in children. Our books were the only resources we had in between psychiatrist appointments and they were comforting. Thankfully parents today have even more options.

How to help a Child with Anxiety

As parents, we must advocate for our children. Call your child’s school. Make an appointment with her pediatrician. Ask for a referral to a good pediatric psychologist. Read everything you can. With panic attacks in children, knowledge is key.

I will mention again that the Anxiety Free Child program is an excellent resource if you have an anxious child or if he or she has panic attacks.

Anxiety-Free Child Program

Remember:  You are your child’s best advocate and support person. If your child suffers from panic attacks, don’t wait 2 weeks until you get an appointment with a therapist who may or may not help. You know your child best and can start helping them right away. What a tremendous gift.


The Anxiety Free Child Program

I wish you peace,
Jill G.

p.s. By the end of 2nd grade, Samantha was pretty much back to her old outgoing self. This was due to almost a year of a lot of intense work and the trail and errors I mentioned above. Don’t make your child suffer any longer than necessary. Order The Anxiety Free Child program and start helping your child today.

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Anxiety is Making My Life Unbearable Again- Is It True?

Today I am going to go through a belief I had recently about anxiety. I will hold this belief up against the 4 questions of The Work of Byron Katie.

Let me show you how, by using 4 Simple Questions and then finding Turnarounds, I was able to set myself free of a belief that was causing me much pain and mental anguish.

My hope is that, by seeing this simple process here, you will be inspired to use The Work on your own limiting beliefs – about anxiety, stress, worry, or anything that is causing you to suffer.

This is a simple way to find peace and freedom! And freedom from suffering is our birthright! 🙂

Ok, so here is the belief that was troubling me:

Anxiety is making my life unbearable again.

Question 1: Is It True?

Hell yes! I was in complete torture in the weeks leading up to my recent flight. How stupid fucking anxieyt wrapped its tentacles around me again after doing so well for so long, I’ll never know. It sucks! I’m so sick of this nonsense. I was going to cancel my trip, it was so bad. It was messing up my life!

Question 2: Can You Absolutely Know It’s True?

Well, I don’t know, let me think about it. Can I ABSOLUTELY know it’s true that anxiety is making my life unbearable again?

Um, I don’t know. I can still function, I can work, I can eat, I can cook, I can drive, I can do what I need to do. I am still here. I am basically ok I guess if it weren’t for that upcoming flight.

So absolutely, in the highest sense, I guess I can’t know it’s absolutely true that anxieyt is making my life unbearable. I can’t know that for sure. Thre are times when I’m not thinking about it and I’m fine. Ok, so…


Question 3: How Do You React When You Believe The Thought?

When I believe that anxieyt is making my life unbearable again I feel a total loss of control. I feel the anxiety in the pit of my stomach, and let it take me away. I stay in the fearful nightmare. Can’t relax, can’t talk to Bob, can’t communicate with family or friends, thoughts come in that tell me I’m all alone, it will never end.

It takes over my perception and makes life hell. It makes everything scary. I notice I’m almost paranoid. looking around every corner. Living very carefully, cautiously. Seeing the world this way, everything looks dark, menacing, threatening. Life is hell. HELL.

Question 4: And Who Would You Be Without The Thought?

(Meaning, who would you be if it weren’t possible for you to think the thought ‘Anxiety is Making My Life Hell Again’?)

Without the thought, I would just be the witness of it. Creating space around it with a clear mind.

I could feel anxiety, I could feel it as a gnawing pit in my stomach and just notice it. Just notice it as a benign physical sensation without having a horrendous story attached to it. It’s not really that bad when I experience it this way actually…

Now Find Genuine Turnarounds to the Original Statement. Ones that are As True or Truer than the Original Statement.

1. Anxiety is making my life easy again

How is this true? It’s true because when I notice it now, I feel like shit for awhile, but not for long. It prompts me to take action and help myself.

I am getting a crash course in self care, and staying grounded in the present.

I have had moments of sheer overload of gratitude when the anxiety goes away. When I listen to a helpful audio (like this one), or listen to the Alter Picture Audio from the 60 Second Panic Solution.  Such moments of peace and love that wells up from within, once the anxiety melts away. The love feels so strong, I almost can’t contain it.

So many things to help me. To realize and be appreciative that there are so many things that helped me get through that anxious phase. It was very life affirming! All I had to do was make myself receptive and available to receiving help!

Thank you Lord!

It also helps me be connected in the world. I know I am not alone in my suffering.

I am learning to accept and love my nervous system. What a strange but welcome feeling! For years and years I just hated everything about my nervous system and my tendency to feel anxious. I even remember a time I wanted to have surgery to have the anxious part of my brain removed!

Thankfully I am kinder to myself today.

I am learning, in baby steps, to experience anxiety without a story. To just watch the sensation without naming it.

And when I can do that, guess what, it goes away! It’s not really the monstrous. malevolent creature I thought it was. Hallelujah!!

I am having moments of peace…. I can notice that even during a stressful time, there are breaks from it. They do come. I just have to be still enough to notice.

I am unraveling decades of conditioning, old stories, just watching and it is absolutely fascinating on some level. Fascinating to see that it was just my thinking that needs to change, and nothing more!

And such great news, because truly, my thinking is the only thing in this world that I have absolute control over! 🙂

2. My Thinking is making my life unbearable again.

Yes! Bingo! That’s it! It attaches to a story of continuous suffering and anxiety. That my children are not ok, that Bob is not ok, that I am not ok. That I can’t travel, that I can’t enjoy life. That families like mine cannot heal from trauma.

When I am in that story,  I am in a nightmare and lose touch with reality and my life becomes unbearable. The truth is anxiety comes and goes. When it comes I attach to a story and it is hell.


I hope you can see from my example how it’s not anxieyt that causes our suffering. It’s THE STORY we weave around the situation and believe that causes the suffering.

And once we loosen our grip on that story, the story itself doesn’t feel so real, so powerful anymore. And naturally then, the anxiety and all the drama around it starts to naturally fade away.

“A thought is harmless unless we believe it. It’s not our thoughts, but our attachment to our thoughts, that causes suffering. Attaching to a thought means believing that it’s true, without inquiring. A belief is a thought that we’ve been attaching to, often for years.” – Byron Katie

Here are some other posts about using The Work that you will want to read:

How the Mind Twists Reality into Hell- And The Way Back to Peace

How to Notice When Your Thinking is Distorted

Doing Byron Katie’s The Work for Panic Attacks

I wish you peace,

Jill G.

Resources for you:

To learn more about The Work, see this site (it is free):

Highly recommended reading (this book is on my nightstand) : Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life

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Facing Anxiety Head On: From Ferris Wheels to Flying Alone

We’re almost half way into October and I realized I haven’t posted here in quite awhile. My life has been sort of all over the place. I had a big challenge to endure at the end of September – namely, my flight to and from Aruba.

I spoke about this a little in my last post: how I have always loved and looked forward to flying, and how sucky it was for anxiety to creep into that area of my life too. Over the last few years whenever I had to fly, I have been white knuckling it. By that I mean, taking medication, and doing my best to distract myself. Basically hating every minute, and just wanting it to be over with.

Well, the way this particular vacation happened seemed to be the “Perfect Storm” for my anxiety to rear it’s ugly head and make my life absolute and complete hell. As in the 2 weeks leading up to the flight, I was almost in a paralyzed state. The fear was that intense.

I was freaked out, of course, but also had the presence of mind to know I needed to take action, and fast. Continue reading

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Using The Law of Attraction to Heal Anxiety

If you get quiet enough, sometimes you get certain insights that can only be described as grace. These insights can help to make life better for us. Today I want to talk about how I am using the Law of Attraction to heal myself of anxiety. My hope is this will inspire you to do the same! 🙂
Recently a dear friend went home to China for a 3 week visit. When she came back to work, she excitedly brought me into the locker room to give me a special gift- a little statue of a cabbage. She said, “This will bring you good luck with EVERYTHING.”

When I got home I researched this little cabbage statue, and indeed it is meant to bring 100 years of prosperity. I decided to take my friend’s word for it. She is just the kindest, nicest, and most well-meaning person I know. When I got home from work that evening, I placed the little cabbage statue near my computer so I could see it every day.

Not a few days later, my husband invited me to watch a free movie on Amazon Prime with him. My husband is not spiritual at all. This movie came out some years ago, and the book was a best seller. The movie was The Secret. Continue reading

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